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,, When 'Home for the Holidays' means disappointment, depression have family or community, and our shred Christmas carols that have more to others or to the trash can. loneliness is painful. We put our own than one verse, and we refuse to dec We can remember what brought us r mind usually delights in dream- holidays into being, especially if YOung. We enjoy tantalizing food, enhanced smells, lingering from is a delight in the anticipation the giving and receiving. are relaxed a little as nect with extended family and COnnecting with a sense of of being someone spe- feel closer to everyone and the caring is enhanced by the of spirit. z much of this "spirit of the holi- LS real for us? How much is wish- and how much is external us get depressed around the and wish we could hide in the stocking until Easter. depressed because we know that We don't want to feel so we try to feel differently, the joy that everyone telling us is out there. Yet we the feeling of empti- just can't feel the joy name on the bottom of our wish list and never quite have time to get to it. It is a time that can be fraught with stress if we allow it to take us over. And stress is tricky, acting like our friend, puffing us up with importance, creating more and more jobs until it takes us over. Do you really have to paint the living room, sand the hallway floor and extend the kitchen by four feet, all in the week before Thanksgiving?. We made it through Thanksgiving without needing the help of a marriage and family therapist because we refrained from smiting the turkey car- cass in Uncle Joe's left ear and bopping Aunt Mathilda with a 50-pound pump- kin. However, can we maintain this excep- tional behavior through Christmas? Does this behavior stress us out because it isn't what we really feel, so we stuff it because it is the season to be jolly?. That's depression. The holiday energy speeds up like a frenetic ham- ster on diet pills. We want to give and many of us wrap the idea of giving around giRs. We go berserk, shopping rate the plastic tree that the cat reshaped. And we start drinking spiked eggnog in August, claiming that our weight gain is from the increased calo- ries in the Girl Scout holiday cookies. What can we change to relieve the stress? We could meet our need for com- munity in many ways. Perhaps we could make Christmas gifts with a group of friends, sharing stories of a past Christmas and trying out old-fash. ioned Christmas carols. Or we could decorate the house with the gifts of the forests, and use relaxing aromatherapy candle We could have a family meeting and discuss what the needs are for everyone around this holiday season, and see if they can be met. Then we could arrange to have other meetings so the family can come together several times before the holidays. If we notice we are getting worked up, we can check it out, see if we are being overwhelmed, and get a reality check from our support systems. We can let go of some of the work we have created for ourselves, delegating it joy in past. holiday rituals, and build on those experiences. We can trim the gift list, instead of the tree. Keep your sense of humor and remember to hugh, invite someone to dinner that lives alone, or send a gift to a family that doesn't have much, or say a prayer for peace. If you are lest in sorrow because the holiday time brings up the loss of some- one you love, allow yourself your pain, allow yourself the memories, allow yourself to light a special candle in their memory. Giving yourself room for exp:-ession of your pain is a gift. Talking to some- one who truly listens to you about your feelings, or just reminiscing about the times you have spent together, gives movement to your sorrow, perhaps allowing space for celebration of the season. Think about the real gifts that are with us every day, the gifts of caring, giving and receiving, of creating sweet memories, the gifts of the unexpected, the gift of sharing and connectLng, the gift of generosity. and plotting, shopping and dropping. ,i i, are a time for comrnuni- When the time actually comes for giv- I ETA Alpha Presents tations of family or our- give from ourselves, from our hearts. P,, , high. The quality in the We hang the mistletoe in the base- is not satisfactory because ment, because we don't have the energy l Location: Tulsa E. Scott Pavilion at the fairgrounds 1 Date: Saturday, December 1, 2001 1 Time: 9:00 am - 3:00 pm i I EVENTS PLANNED: ll Pets withBring your pet down to have a picture taken with Santa.Santa: 9am - 11am This event |l Nays to beat post-Chnstmas blues ' is sponsoredbyPAWS. 1 Lunch with Santa: 11 am - 3prn l | presents have been opened, Make a skating rink in your back- I Bring the family down for a great lunch and have a picture taken I with Santa. This is coordinated by the Plumas Co. Crisis Center. l , dinner has been served and yard. If you have a big, flatlawn, there IBy utsSellingX'm.,asTrees:9am'3pm _ I bravely fought the day-after is potential for skating fun for the for those after-Christmas bar- whole family The grass will come back El l| M, seVe r ow yOUbored,feelbuta littlestilllethavedOwn,sever, manentlyin the springscarring yourS don't worryyard.about per- 1Babysitting will be available by the Methodist Youth Group. I| uemre work and school begin You will need a shovel and a hose I E1 .What will you do? with a t'me-spray nozzle. The ground 1 Crafts and food items will be on sale by many local artisans. You can even ll t sledding. Grab the kids and run, you plan to use should be frozen about I buy See's Candy for the holiday season. ll row mo. I ll a onto a speeding sa, ucer and shoveling most of the snow out of the ll that hill. You don t have toway, spray the designated skating area 1 There will be hourly door prizes and drawings. So don't miss this day of llll Yanda love of skiing skillS,fun.Just a lot of for about 45 minutes. The temperature 1 "one stop shopping" for the whole family including your pet! shouid be freezing or below when you I start this. I II Some bird watching. Watching so much easier when there are ! to block your view. A frozen I an ideal viewing area. Take I _ binoculars and some bread 1 bs to entice the birds closer to I Keep quiet and enjoy the peace- 1 of the outdoors. Spray several more times, allowing the area to freeze between each layer. Fill any holes with ice chips and scrape the ridges smooth with a shov- el. Then spray another layer. Don't for- get to let your hose thaw before you reroil it.